Some youngsters just appear to perceive clouds rather than light. While everyone experiences unpleasant emotions at some point in their lives, feeling down all of the time is harmful.
Raising Children to Have a Positive Attitude
As parents, we want to teach our children to have a more realistic and balanced perspective on life’s great and unpleasant parts. To do this, we must examine our own attitudes and assist our children in developing good views about their role in the world.
Examine Your Personal Attitude
Many of our personality traits are inborn, according to experts, while others are influenced by our surroundings. If you have a youngster that is pessimistic rather than optimistic, you should first analyze your own attitude. The greatest effect on how youngsters view the world is exerted by their parents and caregivers. Do you tend to focus on the bad rather than the positive? Are you continually bringing up all of the negative things that happen to you at work rather than the positive aspects of your day? You may not even be aware that you are doing it, so observe your own attitude to see whether that is where your child is acquiring it.
Examine Your Child’s Experiences
Your child’s experiences may have also contributed to his negative outlook. Death in the family, divorce, poverty, or the loss of a close friend can all have a detrimental impact on your child’s attitude toward life. While you cannot control certain aspects of your child’s life, you can give him the support and attention he needs to go through them with a positive attitude.
Avoid using negative labels.
Don’t bring out to your youngster that one of his siblings is cheerful while the other is pessimistic. Children have a tendency to become the person you tell them they are. If you tell your child, “You’re the gloomy one in our family,” he or she will eventually take on that position permanently.
Be an Example of Optimism
Children mimic what they see, so if they see you acting positively after a traumatic event, they will learn to do the same. How you act has a direct impact on how your child views the world around him.
Teach your child to be optimistic while remaining realistic.
We all have disappointments in our life, and we will not always reach the goals we set for ourselves. When your child has a setback, such as not making the team or failing an exam he worked for, remind him that setbacks may also be learning opportunities. Working a bit harder the next time to make the team or obtaining help with the topic he is struggling with may be the route to succeed the next time. Having the mindset that you can always try again or work a bit harder to attain a goal can help your youngster cope with setbacks.
Help Boost your Child’s Self-Esteem
Positivity and self-esteem are inextricably linked. Allow your child to try new activities and applaud him on his achievements. When he is young, start with simple activities like having him fold towels or clean dishes, and respond enthusiastically to his good work. As your children become older, take note of when they do a good job or get a good grade on a school paper and tell them how proud you are of them. Building their self-esteem via earned praise will go a long way toward giving them optimism.
Refrain from Criticism
Criticizing your child will not inspire him to work more; instead, it will foster negative attitudes. Try assisting your child with the activity or school assignment that is bothering him and encouraging him when he achieves his objective. Even if a goal is not met, remind your youngster that he tried his hardest and did his best. Your child will almost certainly not thrive at everything he does, but tell him that all experiences are educational.
Optimism can be learned at any age, so if you notice yourself imitating gloomy behavior, try looking for the bright side of things more frequently. It’s an established truth that optimistic individuals live longer and are healthier on average. Teaching your children to have a good attitude can not only make them happy but also healthier.
Rose .A. Milani,
Parent Coach and Registered Mental Health Counsellor
Based in Melbourne, Australia