As a parent, you bear a great deal of responsibility for the future of the life you’ve given birth to. Every facet of your child’s social, psychological, and emotional wellbeing is important. You must guarantee that kids develop into excellent citizens who contribute positively to the community. The frequent assumption is that it is too early to begin teaching children the importance of family values or moral standards, which are important in the later stages of their lives. In truth, it is critical to instill moral ideals in children from an early age. Teaching kids the necessary life skills will make the transition to adulthood much easier and smoother. The growing years are when you may make an unforgettable impact on your children that will last a lifetime. Such instructive situations provide a wonderful chance to establish moral values, ethical standards, and principles in children.
Here are some ideas for teaching your child excellent values:
Model good values
Setting a good example for your children is one of the most essential things you can do. They learn through seeing how you treat them, overhearing your interactions with others, and monitoring what you do throughout the day. If you want children to display principles such as honesty, self-respect, and compassion, you must demonstrate these traits yourself. All of your teachings can be undone if your children see you acting in ways that contradict what you’ve stated.
Apologize to your children when you make a mistake.
When you fail to meet their expectations, you must not only admit your error but also express your regret. This demonstrates to them that you value and respect their ideas, viewpoints, and feelings.
Use everyday situations to spark conversation.
Almost every day, something happens that gives you the chance to teach your children about values. Use these occurrences to start a discourse. It might be a news story, something you or your children do, or something you and they witness someone else do. These make excellent on-the-spot lessons.
Share your personal experiences
Most of us can recall several situations in our lives that taught us great lessons. Be open to sharing some of those tales with your children, particularly ones that show how you made decisions that were aligned with your principles.
You may describe a time when you stood up for your beliefs rather than following the herd, befriended a student who everyone else was making fun of, turned in a lost wallet rather than keeping the money for yourself, or worked really hard to attain a specific objective. When telling each tale, explain why it was such a moral quandary, how you arrived at your conclusion, and how everything worked out.
Hold your children responsible for their errors.
Your children may occasionally find themselves in trouble. They may damage a neighbor’s glass while playing baseball, perform poorly at work and be fired, or violate school regulations and incur a detention.
Don’t allow your children to take the easy way out of difficult situations.
Similarly, you should expect your children to complete initiatives they start, even if they are difficult, tiresome, or dull.
If your children make a commitment to accomplishing anything, they must follow through on it. You don’t want them to quit. Encourage them to complete the work they begin. They will gain endurance and responsibility as a result of this procedure.
Encourage and assist others by including your children.
Encourage your children to assist others whenever possible. It’s astonishing how helpful they can be to others just by doing small acts of kindness like writing get-well cards for ill people or befriending timid or new students at school.
Keep track of your television and Internet usage.
When it comes to teaching your children values, if you limit their exposure to incorrect ideas in the first place, there will be a lot less “unlearning” that has to be done. You can’t protect children from everything, but you can and should limit their access to television and the Internet.
Commend excellent behavior.
When you notice your children doing something positive, express your appreciation. Thank your children for cleaning their rooms without being asked or for doing their homework without complaining. Recognize how well they performed after they completed an apparently difficult school project. When you enter the living room and see your children playing pleasantly together, tell them how happy you are to see them getting along so well.
Rose .A. Milani,
Parent Coach and Registered Mental Health Counsellor
Based in Melbourne, Australia